Some people dream, some don’t, or at least they don’t remember doing so.
But do dreams mean anything? Well, while people are convinced dreams are a form of messages received by forces we are unable to see or feel while wide awake, some scientists claim that dreams are simply a result of neuronal processes taking place within our brain.
While we are asleep, our brains are anything but.
Sometimes, dreams happen as a reflection of the day that passed, and other times they represent our fears. But what does it mean when we dream of a deceased person?
These dreams can be seen as part of the process of grieving or a transition that takes place in our own life. According to Healthline, it has to do with the latter.
These dreams are common when we experience certain changes, such as getting a new job, moving places, or meeting someone new.
What is most important than the dream itself, however, is how it make us feel.
Rubin Naiman, who has a Ph.D. in psychology, spent years of his life studying sleep patterns and habits. According to him, “Dream interpretation is about decoding the dream. It enlightens us and expands our awareness psychologically, [offering an] expansion of consciousness.”
So, dreaming of someone who is no longer alive may be related to the changes mentioned above and how those changes affect us.
”A lot of contemporary neuroscientists believe during REM sleep, the brain is involved in maintenance tasks, and it accidentally ‘kicks up dust,’ visually. At that end, dreaming is considered totally meaningless.” On the other hand he explains, “The other end is that dreaming is more substantial than waking. And we see this in ‘dream cultures,’ such as the indigenous people of Australia, who believe dreaming is intrinsic to our spiritual existence.”
Experts place these dreams into four categories.
- First, dreaming of a deceased person may be interpreted as the brain trying to work through the pain of the loss.
- If we hadn’t made amends with the deceased person before their passing, we may feel guilt and that might be the reason why they visit us in our dreams.
- According to Lauri Loewenberg, a dream analyst, we may be dreaming of a deceased person if we see some of their behaviors, such as substance abuse or else, in ourselves.
- There are experts who believe that these dreams represent a visitation from the deceased person, especially if we see them in a good condition in our dream, meaning they are well dressed or seem happy. If we feel good about the dream, it may mean that the deceased person says ‘Hello.’
No matter what we feel about dreams, the truth is that they offer something deep and meaningful. They often give us insight into the soul and our connection with the deceased person that we see in our dreams.
My Husband Kicked Me Out of the House Because I Couldn’t Calm Our Kids Down While He Was Working
It wasn’t the yelling kids or the endless demands that broke me. It was the moment my husband opened the door, his face cold and resolved, and said, “You need to go.” That’s when everything shifted.
I never thought I’d be writing this, but here we are.
I’m a stay-at-home mom with three kids — Oliver (7), Sophie (5), and Max (3). My husband, Mark, works from home to support us, and for the most part, it’s a good life. It’s full of love, laughter, and the kind of chaos that only small children can create.
Couple with their three children| Source: Midjourney
But last week… last week was different. It felt like everything unraveled, and now, I’m not even sure where I stand anymore. It started like any other day. Mark was on a conference call in his office, trying to close some important deal, and I was doing my usual juggling act with the kids.
Oliver wanted to watch cartoons, Sophie was bored, and Max was, well, being a three-year-old, so everything seemed like a reason to cry. You know, the usual.
“Mommy, I want to watch cartoons,” Oliver tugged at my sleeve, his eyes pleading.
“We just watched some, Ollie. How about we play a game instead?” I suggested, trying to sound enthusiastic even though I was completely drained.
Exhausted woman holding her son | Source: Midjourney
“Games are boring,” Sophie shouted, crossing her arms.
Before I could respond, Max started wailing — no reason, just joining in the chaos like he always did. I could feel the tension building, and so could Mark. I glanced at him through the glass door of his office, and I could see it in his eyes — the silent plea for quiet. But how could I manage that with three kids all demanding something different?
“Shh, guys, Daddy’s working,” I whispered, already knowing it was hopeless.
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“Why can’t Daddy play with us?” Oliver whined, louder this time.
I wanted to scream. I had tried everything: snacks, storytime, their favorite show on repeat. Nothing worked. Their noise level just kept rising, and with it, my stress.
Then, I heard it. The sound of Mark’s office door opening, slowly but deliberately.
A man getting out of his office | Source: Midjourney
I turned, expecting him to say something calming, offer help, or even give me a reassuring look. Instead, his face was tight, his eyes cold.
“Can’t you keep them quiet for five minutes?” His voice was low, but it cut through me like a knife.
My heart pounded as Mark’s words hit me like a freight train.
“I’m trying to manage them, but they just won’t listen!” I pleaded, throwing my hands up in desperation, the sound of the kids still echoing in the background. I searched his face for some sign of understanding, hoping he’d soften, but all I saw was frustration. Deep, simmering frustration.
Frustrated man in deep thoughts | Source: Midjourney
Mark took a deep breath, his eyes wild with anger. “I can’t live like this anymore! You’re not even a mother right now… you’re just… just a woman!” His words cut through the air, leaving me breathless.
“What?” I gasped, my throat tightening. “Mark, what are you saying?”
He ran his hands through his hair. “Just go! Get out of here!” he snapped, storming past me.
Man standing next to his wife | Source: Midjourney
Before I could even comprehend what was happening, he grabbed my suitcase from the closet, dragged it to the bed, and quickly stuffed clothes into it. Socks, pajamas, anything he could grab.
“Mark, stop! What are you doing?” My voice cracked, tears welling up in my eyes as I watched him. “Please, I’m trying my best!”
He didn’t stop. His hands moved faster, almost as if he was afraid he’d change his mind if he slowed down. “You need to take a break from all of this,” he muttered. “You deserve time for yourself, some place away from… this chaos.”
A man holding clothes | Source: Midjourney
I stood there, paralyzed by disbelief. Was this really happening? My husband — the man I shared my life, my home, my children with — was packing my bags, telling me to leave.
“I booked a hotel room for you. Two days. You’ll have time to yourself,” he said, his voice suddenly calmer, as if this were all perfectly reasonable.
My heart raced faster, confusion mixing with a strange sense of relief that I didn’t want to admit to. “You’re sending me away? Mark, I can’t just leave the kids like this…”
Husband and wife having a misunderstanding | Source: Midjourney
He grabbed his wallet, pulled out his credit card, and placed it on my hand. “Take my card. Go treat yourself. Get a nice meal, and drink something fancy. Get a massage, whatever you need. Just go.”
I stared at the card, my mind reeling. This didn’t feel like a gift—it felt like an eviction. But beneath the shock, the guilt, and the tears that stung my eyes, I felt something else: a small glimmer of relief. The exhaustion, the endless days of noise and mess, had been wearing on me more than I realized.
Mark stepped forward, his anger softening just slightly. “This is for you. Please, just go.”
A man and his wife standing on the door | Source: Midjourney
I didn’t know what else to do. With trembling hands, I zipped up the suitcase and wiped away the tears that had started to fall. He gave me a quick hug, a peck on the cheek that felt rushed, and before I could process it, I was in the car, pulling out of the driveway. As I drove away, my hands gripping the wheel, my heart pounded with disbelief.
Was my husband really doing this for me, or was he doing it to get rid of me?
Woman driving her car | Source: Pexels
Arriving at the hotel, I took a deep, shaky breath. The lobby smelled like fresh coffee and soft jazz played in the background, soothing my frazzled nerves. Everything seemed so calm here. It was such a stark contrast to the chaos I had just left behind.
I checked in quickly, making my way to my room with the weight of the past few hours still pressing on my shoulders.
As soon as I opened the door to the small, cozy room, I let out a long sigh of relief. The bed looked like a sanctuary, and without thinking twice, I collapsed onto it, staring up at the ceiling.
A woman laying on bed staring at the ceiling | Source: Pexels
I should’ve been furious, right? My husband had literally kicked me out of the house! But instead, I felt… lighter? The guilt bubbled up, but it was quickly replaced by a strange sense of freedom.
My phone buzzed. It was Mark.
“I can’t believe you kicked me out. This is so surreal,” I typed, my fingers trembling slightly as I hit send.
A few moments later, his reply flashed on my screen. “Just trust me. I know you need this. Let me handle the kids.”
I stared at the message for a while, trying to make sense of it. Could he really handle it? Could I really let go? With a deep breath, I decided to surrender to the moment.
A woman holding her smartphone | Source: Pexels
The first day slipped by in a blur of pampering. I took the longest bath I’d had in years, soaking in the silence. Room service delivered a meal I didn’t have to cook, and I ate in bed while flipping through the book I’d been meaning to read for months.
I felt something close to peace, but in the back of my mind, I couldn’t stop thinking about the kids. How were they managing without me?
That evening, I couldn’t resist. I dialed Mark’s number.
“Hey… how are the kids?” I asked, trying to sound casual, though my heart was racing.
Woman in a hotel room making a phone call | Source: Midjourney
“They’re good,” Mark replied, sounding surprisingly calm. “We had a little talk about respecting you and what it means to be a family. They miss you, Mia.”
I blinked in surprise. “Really? What did you tell them?”
“I told them that you do everything for us, and it’s time they show you how much they appreciate you.” His voice was steady and reassuring.
My heart warmed at his words. It was so unlike Mark to take the lead with the kids like this, to be the one who gave the talk. But hearing it gave me a sense of relief I didn’t know I needed. Maybe he was right after all.
Woman in a hotel room making a phone call | Source: Midjourney
After two days of self-care and relaxation, I drove back home feeling refreshed, but uncertain about what awaited me. I opened the front door, bracing myself for the usual chaos, but instead… silence.
The living room was spotless. Toys that were normally scattered everywhere were neatly put away, and the kids—Oliver, Sophie, and Max—stood in matching outfits, beaming like they were up to something.
“Mommy!” they shouted in unison, racing toward me.
I laughed as I knelt down, gathering them into my arms. “What’s all this? Did I step into the wrong house?”
Woman hugging her three children | Source: Midjourney
Sophie grinned and pointed behind her. “Surprise! We made you dinner!”
I glanced over to see a little table set up with paper plates, juice boxes, and what looked like sandwiches they’d put together themselves. My heart swelled.
Mark appeared, his arms crossed, smiling proudly. “The kids wanted to show you how much they appreciate you. We’ve been planning this all day.”
I stood, tears threatening to spill. “You all did this for me?”
Emotional woman | Source: Midjourney
“Of course!” Oliver exclaimed, his chest puffed out with pride. “We wanted to make you happy.”
Mark walked over and pulled me into a soft embrace. “You needed a break, Mia. And I needed to teach the kids how to appreciate everything you do.”
I blinked back tears and looked up at him. “Thank you. I can’t believe you managed all this.”
He chuckled, shaking his head. “It wasn’t easy, but we made it work. Together.”
That evening, as we shared a simple meal filled with laughter and stories, I realized how much had shifted.
Couple enjoying dinner together | Source: Midjourney
After putting the kids to bed, Mark and I settled onto the couch, tired but content. He reached for my hand. “I’m sorry for how I reacted before. I felt overwhelmed and didn’t know how to help.”
I leaned against him, my heart full. “I appreciate you, Mark. Thank you for reminding me of my worth. I love you.”
He squeezed my hand, a soft smile on his lips. “I love you too, Mia. We’re in this together.”
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