In August 2017, Tony Alarcon’s phone rang unexpectedly.
Like many parents, he thought it might be a telemarketer. But this time, he answered the call.
Hearing from the school can be nerve-wracking for any parent. Tony immediately started worrying—was his daughter, Demetra, okay? Had something happened?
What he found out left him surprised.
It was a hot summer day in Northern California, with temperatures reaching 90 degrees. Tony had dropped off his 13-year-old daughter, Demetra, at school that morning. She wore a blue romper to stay cool in the heat, and neither of them thought the outfit would cause any issues.
Demetra, a student at Raymond J. Fisher Middle School in Los Gatos, California, had simply dressed for the weather.
Not everyone agreed with Demetra’s outfit. A teacher at her school said her romper was “too distracting” for the boys.
When the teacher told Demetra that her outfit was too short, her dad, Tony, rushed back to the school with a change of clothes—jean shorts and a tank top. But the school said those clothes were also inappropriate.
Tony was shocked. He asked Demetra to bend over and touch her toes in front of the school administrator. “Nothing is hanging out. There’s nothing inappropriate. I don’t understand this dress code rule,” he told TODAY.
Still, the school said her clothes were “distracting.” Since it was 90 degrees outside, Tony had no choice but to go to his car and grab a pair of leggings for Demetra to wear.
Demetra felt embarrassed.
Tony expressed his frustration, saying, “She’s just a kid. She’s only 13. She’s not trying to be a sex symbol. She just wants to be comfortable and attend class, but we’re not giving her that chance.”
This wasn’t the first time Demetra had been in trouble for her clothes. Just a week before, she was called out for a visible bra strap. “When I got dress coded last week, they said my bra strap was showing,” Demetra told the *San Jose Mercury News*. “Like, I’m wearing a bra—what’s the big deal?”
Tony, a successful investment advisor and father of two, didn’t let it go. Angry at what he saw as an unfair rule that mostly targeted girls, he took his complaint to social media. Parents from all over the country showed their support, agreeing that the school’s dress code was outdated and unfair to girls.
“Demetra’s not the only one. If you sit in the school parking lot, you’ll see that,” Tony said. “Lots of girls just want to be comfortable, but they feel forced to wear leggings even when it’s 100 degrees outside.”
Tony believed that parents, not schools, should decide if their children’s clothes are appropriate. He was also worried about how being told their clothing is a “distraction” to boys could affect young girls emotionally in the long run.
The story quickly got attention from the media, with major news outlets reporting on Tony’s efforts to change the dress code. While the school didn’t speak on camera, they did release a statement:
“The Los Gatos Union School District believes that appropriate dress and grooming contribute to a productive learning environment,” the district said. “Students are expected to wear clothes that reflect the core values of our learning community.”
Tony’s efforts made an impact. His push for change led the Los Gatos Union School District to reevaluate its dress code to make it fairer and less strict for all students.
Lisa Fraser, the school’s principal, explained that the dress code rules, called “Fashion Faux Pas,” apply to both girls and boys. Some of the rules include no hats or hoods indoors, no visible underwear, no inappropriate logos or words, and shorts must have at least 4-inch inseams.
“There has always been a dress code,” Fraser told a newspaper. “These are basic rules for appropriate behavior. I can set guidelines for the school, but I want them to reflect the community’s values.”
In the end, Tony Alarcon’s persistence started an important discussion about how school dress codes affect young girls — showing that one parent’s voice can truly make a difference.
What do you think about the school’s dress code? Have you or your children faced a similar situation? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments!
Sending Belated Birthday Greetings: Expressing Your Good Wishes with a Personal Touch
Living in today’s world, it can be simple to forget about an important occasion like a loved one’s birthday. The fast-paced nature of life, unforeseen circumstances, or even just not remembering can cause us to miss out on commemorating an important day.
Although the birthday may have already passed, it’s never too late to make amends and show your sincerest belated wishes. In this article, we’ll explore how to express your feelings with truthfulness, personalization, and affection.
To begin, you must acknowledge that you missed their special day, but emphasize that it doesn’t diminish its importance in your heart. A heartfelt belated wish can mean just as much as an on-time one, so don’t let lateness prevent you from reaching out.
Think about what makes your relationship with the person unique and use those details to craft a thoughtful message that reflects your shared experiences, inside jokes, or precious memories. Adding a personal touch to your belated birthday wishes shows that you’ve taken the time to reflect on your bond and make your message special.
Choosing the right medium to convey your message is also essential. A handwritten letter or a carefully selected card can serve as tangible keepsakes, while a heartfelt video message adds a personal touch. The medium you select should align with your style and the recipient’s preferences.
Make sure your belated birthday wishes are genuine and express real regret for the delay. Let the person know that they matter to you and that you hold them dear, even if you didn’t acknowledge their special day on time. Your sincerity and the warmth of your words can help make up for the late wishes.
Turn your belated birthday wishes into an opportunity to highlight the positives. Celebrate their achievements, their impact on your life, or the joy they bring to those around them. Remind them of their significance and why they are so special to you. This positive reinforcement can turn a belated wish into a heartfelt celebration.
If possible, plan a special get-together or activity to compensate for the delay. This demonstrates your commitment to creating lasting memories, even if it’s slightly delayed. It shows that you’re willing to make amends and celebrate their special day in a memorable way.
A little bit of humor can also go a long way. Consider adding a well-placed joke or witty comment to your belated birthday wishes to make the person smile and lessen any disappointment from the late wishes. It shows that you can laugh at yourself, and the relationship is strong enough to handle a little lateness.
If you choose to send a gift along with your belated birthday wishes, think about the person’s interests and preferences. A thoughtful gift can show that you’ve put thought and effort into selecting something meaningful. Let this be an opportunity to make up for the late wishes and show that you care.
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