“Remember how we always said, ‘You can do it if you want, but you don’t have to?’ Well if you start this, you can’t quit’,” said Howard, recalling a conversation he had with his parents decades before. “You don’t have to do other parts on other shows, if you don’t want, but you’d have to keep doing this one.”
Explaining that he understood the message his parents were delivering, Howard adds, “I think it was pretty clear at that point that I was enjoying it, and I was good at it.”
Actually, he was great at it, and he was about to reach a level of stratospheric stardom.
Howard’s ‘Happy Days’
While starring in The Andy Griffith Show, Howard also appeared on the big screen in 1962’s The Music Man, a musical film that was a huge commercial success.
A natural talent, he then starred in 1973’s American Graffiti, which also starred Harrison Ford, Richard Dreyfuss and Cindy Williams, whom he would work alongside in the future.
It was in 1974 when he was cast as Richie Cunningham in a new series created by Garry Marshall called Happy Days, which appeared on TV screens in homes across the world from 1974 to 1984.
The TV show spawned a few popular spin-offs like Laverne & Shirley, starring Williams and Marshall’s sister Penny, and Mork & Mindy with Robin Williams as Mork, the favorite Orkan.
High school sweetheart
It was in 1970 – before he won a Golden Globe for his performance as the innocent teenager on Happy Days – that Howard met the high school sweetheart, Cheryl Alley, whom he would marry in 1975.
“I met her, and there was never anybody else,” Speaking with People, the director of the Da Vinci Code continued, “She’s unbelievably supportive and always has been. Our compatibility has endured through all kinds of experiences.”
After 50 years of shared experiences, Howard, who earned an Oscar for directing A Beautiful Mind, commemorated the 50th anniversary of his first date with Cheryl on Instagram.
“Nov 1 1970 Cheryl & I went on our 1st date,” he wrote alongside a photo of himself wearing socks with images of Cheryl’s face. “We went to see a re-release of Stanley Kramer’s It’s a Mad Mad Mad World and then got some pizza at now defunct Barnone’s in Toluca Lake. Quite a start, right?”
He also shared their plans that day, “We’ll be driving in the same ‘70 VW Bug I picked Cheryl up in 5 decades ago. It runs great. So do we.”
His ‘good luck charm’
Cheryl made several cameos in Howard’s projects and even played herself on the TV comedy series Arrested Development, produced and narrated by Howard.
Speaking with the Television Academy, Ron called Cheryl his “good luck charm,” and explained that is why she appears in every film he makes.
“At a certain point, I became very superstitious about making sure that she appears, that she’s at least identifiable in one frame,” he said. “They don’t have to be big cameos, but she’s gotta be in there.”
In addition to bringing her husband some luck, Cheryl is also a published author who holds a bachelor’s degree in psychology and a master’s degree in screenwriting.
The power couple are grandparents to six children and the parents of four, daughter Bryce, twins Paige and Jocelyn and son Reed.
Bryce – a recognizable actor – is known for roles in movies like Jurassic World and The Help, while Paige made her feature film debut in the 2009 movie Adventureland. Since she’s appeared in films The Employer and Collection.
Reed is a professional golfer and Paige’s twin sister Jocelyn is very private.
The secret to longevity
Nearing their 49th anniversary on June 7, the Emmy Award-winning producer shares that “communication” is the secret to their enduring love.
“People say, ‘How’d you do it?’ There’s no technique,” Howard tells People. “There’s no tactic, other than communication is really important. You have to learn to communicate and have difficult conversations in constructive ways. Beyond that, there’s an element of luck because people either grow together or they don’t and I don’t think you can force that.”
I Walked Out of My Own Birthday Dinner in Tears from Humiliation After My Fiancé’s ‘Surprise’
After a tough year, Morgan’s fiancé promised her birthday would be unforgettable. Dressed up and hopeful, she walks into a lavish surprise party. But the night takes a cruel turn when he stands to toast and hands her a demeaning gift.
I wasn’t one for grand celebrations. A cake and a quiet evening would’ve been perfect — especially this year.
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Between my struggle adapting to an increased workload after a job promotion, losing my childhood dog, Rufus, and watching Dad’s health slowly decline, I was emotionally drained.
Turning 30 felt like just another thing to get through.
So when Greyson started acting mysterious about my birthday (hiding his phone with a smirk, dropping hints like, “You’re gonna love what I’ve planned. It’s gonna blow your mind”), I dared to hope for something sweet. Maybe even healing.
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“Wear something nice,” he told me that night. “Something you’d wear to a fancy rooftop place.”
I took my time getting ready. When I walked into the living room, Greyson looked up from his phone and whistled.
“Perfect,” he said, his eyes moving up and down. “You actually look good when you put in some effort.” He added in what I recognized as his teasing voice, “And you’re gonna need to look stunning for this.”
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My heart fluttered as we drove. He really did something nice, I thought. After months of feeling invisible, I finally mattered enough for him to plan something special.
We pulled up to an elegant restaurant. Jazz played softly as the hostess smiled and led us toward a private room.
The door swung open, and—
“SURPRISE!”
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The room exploded with applause from friends and family. A massive cake shaped like stacked books sat on a table (a nod to my job as a librarian). It was perfect!
I turned to Greyson, genuinely moved. He leaned in and cupped my face, speaking to me alone: “See? I always know exactly what you need.”
I nodded and smiled up at him. He did. He really did.
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For the first time in months, I let my guard down and allowed myself to enjoy the moment.
Laughter, toasts, candles… and Greyson showing a rare display of affection, his arm draped around my waist as we mingled.
About an hour in, Greyson stood and clinked his glass with a spoon. “Attention everyone! Time for a toast! And then, the main gift for our birthday girl.”
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The room quieted. I felt a flush of pleasure as everyone turned to look at us.
“I want to thank everyone for coming tonight,” he started. “As you all know, Morgan’s been through a lot lately; job stress, losing her dog, and, well… turning 30.”
He paused for effect, and laughter bubbled awkwardly through the room.
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“I thought long and hard about what to get you, babe,” he continued, turning to me. “Jewelry? Nah, you’d probably lose it like that bracelet I got you last Christmas. A vacation? Too cliché. So I decided to get you something truly useful.”
He reached under the table and pulled out a gift bag tied with a pink ribbon.
The crowd “oohed” appreciatively. My cheeks hurt from smiling so much.
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He handed it to me with a flourish. “Go ahead, open it.”
I pulled out the tissue paper, expecting maybe concert tickets or a beautiful journal. Instead, I pulled out… pink rubber gloves.
Then a sponge. Paper towels. And finally, a toilet brush.
My smile froze.
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“Now you’ve got NO excuse to keep leaving dishes in the sink, babe!” Greyson laughed.
Polite laughter rippled through the room. My cheeks burned, no longer from joy. I forced my smile to stay put.
“Very funny,” I managed.
“Oh, and don’t worry — I did get you a real gift,” Greyson said, as if reading my mind.
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Relief washed over me. Of course. This was just his way of being playful before the real surprise.
He handed me an envelope. Inside was a laminated chore chart with my name on every line: dishes, vacuuming, bathroom, laundry, groceries, meal prep.
“I made this so you don’t forget what your jobs are around the house,” he explained brightly. “Because I definitely won’t.”
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A few strained chuckles sounded from my guests.
“Is this the real gift, or…?” I whispered.
“Oh no, I’m serious,” he shrugged. “Hey, you’re the one who’s always saying you ‘thrive with structure,’ right?” Then, he leaned in close and said under his breath, “Think of it as a home promotion to go with your job promotion last month. Happy Birthday!”
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I don’t remember the next few minutes clearly.
I know I smiled. Nodded. Thanked him. I remember folding the chart carefully and placing it back in the envelope. I excused myself, saying I needed some air.
I walked out to the parking lot, sat in our car, and cried for 20 minutes.
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Just when I was debating whether to return to the party or simply vanish, someone knocked on the car window.
It was Natalie, Greyson’s cousin. I quickly wiped my eyes, but it was too late. She had seen.
She opened the passenger door and slid in beside me. Without a word, she wrapped her arms around me.
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“That was disgusting,” she whispered. “I’m so sorry.”
I broke down again, the dam finally giving way.
“I don’t understand,” I sobbed. “Why would he do that? In front of everyone? On my birthday?”
Natalie pulled back, her expression troubled. “This wasn’t last-minute, Morgan. He’s been planning this for weeks.”
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“What?”
She nodded grimly. “He called me to help arrange the surprise party three weeks ago. And he said, and I quote, ‘She thinks she’s so perfect. Let’s humble her a little.'”
My world tilted. “What are you talking about?”
“He told Jason that you’ve been getting ‘too full of yourself’ since your promotion. That you needed to be knocked down a peg.”
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I felt sick. “But I’ve barely mentioned my promotion. I’ve been so focused on Dad’s health and—”
“I know,” Natalie cut in. “But Greyson… his jokes have always had a mean edge, but he went too far this time.”
“I should go back in,” I said numbly.
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“You don’t have to,” Natalie replied. “I’ll tell them you weren’t feeling well.”
“No,” I shook my head. “I… I want to salvage what I can of this night.”
I went home that night shattered, replaying every moment of the evening. Greyson was attentive, asking if I liked my surprise party and if I was excited about my “gifts.” I smiled and nodded, something hollow growing inside me.
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The next morning, I quietly packed a weekend bag, removed my engagement ring, and drove to my sister’s house two towns over.
I ignored Greyson’s frantic texts: “Where are you???” “Are you seriously mad about a joke???” “Everyone thought it was funny except you.”
Over the next few days, I replayed the last two years: his subtle jabs disguised as concern, the passive-aggressive jokes, the financial control masked as “being responsible.”
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I started documenting everything: screenshots of texts, voice notes I’d saved, comments about chores, my cooking, and how I dressed.
The truth clicked into place: this wasn’t a one-time cruelty, but a painful pattern of emotional abuse. I couldn’t believe I hadn’t seen it before.
Two weeks later, while Greyson was at the gym, I returned to our apartment with Natalie and two friends.
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We boxed up my things quickly and efficiently.
But I also left something: his own chore chart, printed and laminated, with each task assigned to “Greyson.”
I stuck a Post-it note on it that read: “No excuse now. You’ve got this, right?”
Then I blocked his number. I thought that was the end of it, but I was wrong.
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A month later, as I was settling into my new routine, I got a DM on Facebook from Margo, Greyson’s ex.
“You probably don’t know me,” it read. “We only met once briefly, but I dated Greyson before you. I saw that your relationship status changed and your ring was gone in your new profile picture. I just wanted to say… I understand.”
We met for coffee.
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Margo told me about how Greyson had pulled the same public shaming trick at her college graduation party three years ago.
“He stood up in front of my entire family and announced that I only got honors because I ‘slept less and kissed up to more professors.’ Everyone laughed uncomfortably. I was humiliated.”
We talked for hours, piecing together the pattern of a man who built himself up by tearing others down.
Then we decided to do something about him.
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Together, we wrote a PSA-style post about humiliation masked as humor, emotional manipulation, and the subtle forms abuse can take.
We didn’t mention names, but we spoke our truths and anyone who knew us could figure out who we were referring to.
The post spread like wildfire.
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It had 13,000 shares within days. Comments flooded in: “This happened to me too.” “I thought I was alone.” “I’m still trying to find the courage to leave.”
Greyson deleted all his social media within 48 hours. I later heard that he left town to “start over.”
But I wasn’t watching. I was rebuilding.
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I’m in therapy now. I got that raise my boss had been hinting at and signed a lease on a cozy little apartment for me and Bailey, my golden retriever puppy.
No man will ever hand me a sponge and call it a gift again.
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