When Mel has surgery scheduled, she has no choice but to follow a strict diet in preparation. But one day, her mother-in-law shows up, ready to cook up a storm and disrespect Mel’s new regime. Soon, tempers flare…
My husband, Dave, and I have always had a solid relationship. Sure, like most couples, there are ups and downs, but we handle them pretty well in general.
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Except when it comes to his mom, Margaret.
Margaret has a knack for inserting herself into our lives, often under the pretense of being helpful. She’ll just drop by unannounced, often claiming to be worried about how I’m taking care of her son.
“Mel, it’s just my mom’s way of showing her love,” Dave would say, dismissing it all. “She’s always been so dramatic, and that’s just one of those things.”
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But to me, it just felt invasive.
Recently, things took quite a turn for the worse. I have a chronic condition that requires surgery on my spine. As a result, my doctor has put me on a strict pre-surgery diet.
“It’s not going to be great, Mel,” he told me when I went for my last check-up. “But it’s necessary, I promise you. We need you to cut down on your body weight so that after the surgery, the stress on your spine will be less.”
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I understood the assignment, and I was committed to my health.
“Look, honey,” I told Dave when I went home after my appointment. “You don’t have to change your diet at all. I’ll still get you everything you want to eat, and cook what you want, too. But there’s a bunch of food that I have to avoid.”
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“No,” my husband reassured me. “I’ll do it with you. Just put the list of forbidden items on the fridge, and I’ll know what to avoid.”
I had to admit, I was surprised by Dave. This man loved his fried food. The greasier the better when it came to my husband’s diet. But this change was good for both of us, and I loved that he was being supportive.
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So, we began diligently avoiding sugar, limiting carbs, and eating lots of greens and lean proteins. It was quite a lifestyle change, because now I had to be strict about everything I put into my mouth. But I knew that it was going to be worth it in the end.
But then, Margaret turned up like a storm about the disrupt our peace.
Last weekend, as I was reading in our home office, Margaret showed up with bags full of groceries.
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Without even asking, she started preparing Dave’s favorite meal: fried chicken, mashed potatoes drenched in butter, and a decadent chocolate cake.
“Do you need any help?” I asked her when I realized that she was about to cook up a storm.
“No, darling,” she said. “You go and relax; I’m fine here.”
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So, I let her take over the kitchen. The aroma filled the house, and I felt my stomach rumble. But I knew that I couldn’t eat any of it. On one hand, I felt that Margaret was being inappropriate, but on the other hand, I was glad that Dave was getting some good food that he enjoyed.
When dinner was ready, I politely declined.
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“I’m really sorry, Margaret,” I began while taking out my salad greens and leftover grilled chicken from the fridge.
“What are you doing?” she asked, looking at the food that I laid out on the counter, ready to make myself dinner.
“There’s more than enough food, Mel. You don’t need to make more,” she huffed.
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“I’m just making my dinner,” I said slowly. “As incredible as your meal smells and looks, I can’t eat any of it. I’m on a strict diet for my surgery. I cannot afford to have any slip-ups.”
Instead of understanding the situation like any rational person, my mother-in-law’s face twisted in displeasure.
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“Oh, come on, Mel,” she said. “I worked really hard on this meal. Just a little won’t hurt.”
“I appreciate it, and I’m so grateful that you’re here and that you cooked this meal for Dave, but I just cannot risk it. This surgery is too important,” I insisted.
Cue the meltdown.
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She started muttering under her breath about how ungrateful I was, making a big show of serving Dave a heaping plate of food. I felt a knot form in my stomach, not from hunger, but from the tension.
Then, she turned to Dave.
“Isn’t it a shame? I go through all this trouble, and she can’t even try a bite of it.”
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I looked at my husband, expecting him to defend me. Instead, he shrugged and put a forkful of mashed potato into his mouth.
“Maybe just have a small bite, honey,” he said with his mouth full. “Just be polite. Have a piece of chicken and some mash.”
I couldn’t believe it. He was the person who didn’t mind changing up his diet and his routine because he wanted to support me. What was this? What was this change of behavior?
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“Dave, you know I can’t. It’s not just about being polite. It’s about my health. You know I only have a few weeks to get ready.”
Margaret’s eyes narrowed as she picked up a plate for herself.
“It’s just one meal, Melissa. I don’t see what the big deal is. Is that really how you speak to my son? And you’re making me feel like my food isn’t good enough for you.”
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“That’s not it at all, Margaret,” I said, trying to keep my voice calm. “I’m sure the food is delicious as always, but I need to be strict here. I cannot afford any setbacks. This is my spine we’re talking about!”
“Oh, please,” she scoffed. “You’re just being overly dramatic. People have been eating real food like this for centuries without all these modern health scares.”
I could feel the heat rise in my blood. My anger was building, and so was my disappointment.
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But before things could escalate further, the doorbell rang.
It was George, my father-in-law, dropping by to pick up some tools. He walked into the kitchen just as Margaret was going on about how I was “too good” for her cooking.
George surveyed the scene quickly and then looked directly at Margaret.
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“Margaret, you know she’s on a diet for her surgery. This isn’t about politeness or niceties. It’s about Mel’s health. She has been trying to sort out her spine issues for years now, Marg, you know this,” he said. “You need to respect that.”
Margaret opened her mouth to argue, but George didn’t give her a chance.
“If you can’t respect their boundaries, maybe you should stop coming over unannounced.”
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I was stunned.
George had never intervened in these situations before, and to see him take such a strong stance was both surprising and incredibly comforting.
Margaret stormed out of the dining room, clearly upset, but George stayed behind.
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“Oh, gosh,” my husband muttered, putting his piece of chicken down as he pushed his chair back to run after his mother.
George turned to me with a kind smile.
“You did the right thing. Don’t worry about Margaret; she’ll come around,” he said. “Your health is so important.”
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Dave came running back in, looking thoroughly chastened.
“I’m sorry,” he said. “I shouldn’t have said anything or tried to force you to eat any of this. I just didn’t want to upset Mom, but I realize now that I should have supported you.”
George nodded approvingly.
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“You’re right, Dave. This is your family, and you need to prioritize your wife’s well-being.”
“Please, you two carry on eating,” I said, returning to the kitchen. “I’m going to make some salad.”
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While I was in the kitchen, I saw Margaret sitting on the bench outside. I could have gone to her, but I hated the way she had spoken to me.
Later, after the three of us had eaten, George took Margaret home.
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As we got into bed, Dave apologized to me again and promised to be more supportive in the future.
It felt good to clear the air, but I couldn’t shake the feeling of unease. Before they left, Margaret had just walked past us, not even saying goodbye.
Anyway, I still had bigger things to worry about. My surgery was more important.
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Meet Antoine Cheval: “The Frenchman Who Chose to Marry Himself After Facing Repeated Rejections”
In a world where traditional relationships and marriage are often viewed as life milestones, Antoine Cheval, a French man, has taken a bold and unconventional step by marrying himself. After experiencing numerous failed relationships and repeated rejections to his marriage proposals, Antoine, who identifies as a “sologamist,” chose to commit to the most important relationship in his life: the one with himself.
Who is Antoine Cheval?
Antoine Cheval is a French individual who, following years of personal challenges and heartbreak, made the radical decision to marry himself. His embrace of sologamy—also known as autogamy—emerged as a response to repeated romantic disappointments. By choosing to marry himself, Antoine made a profound statement about self-love and personal worth. His self-marriage ceremony included all the traditional trappings: vows, a reception, and guests, symbolizing his commitment to living authentically and on his own terms.
Antoine’s journey is part of a broader trend where people around the world are exploring self-marriage as a way to affirm their independence, self-worth, and emotional fulfillment. He sees his act not just as personal, but as a challenge to societal norms surrounding love and relationships.
What is Sologamy?
Sologamy, or self-marriage, is the act of committing to oneself in a ceremony that symbolizes self-love and independence. While it lacks the legal standing of traditional marriage, sologamy is a symbolic gesture that underscores a person’s dedication to their own happiness and well-being. Practitioners of sologamy often view it as a celebration of self-empowerment and a way to prioritize their personal growth.
Critics argue that self-marriage is purely symbolic and does not confer the legal or social benefits of traditional marriage. Supporters, however, see it as a powerful affirmation of self-worth and a rejection of societal pressures to find validation through others. For many, marrying oneself represents a commitment to personal happiness, emotional health, and independence.
Self-Marriage Celebrations
Self-marriage ceremonies often mirror traditional weddings, complete with vows, guests, a reception, and even a wedding cake. Some individuals also undergo counseling or personal reflection to prepare for the emotional commitment of marrying themselves. These ceremonies provide an opportunity to reflect on past relationships, embrace self-love, and move forward with confidence.
While often associated with affluent women in the 21st century, sologamy is not limited to one gender or demographic. People from various backgrounds have embraced the practice, viewing it as a way to prioritize self-care and redefine what it means to be fulfilled.
Notable Examples of Sologamy
Antoine Cheval is not the only person to make headlines for marrying himself. In 2014, British photographer Sophie Tanner celebrated her self-marriage with a ceremony attended by friends and family. Tanner explained that she wanted to honor herself as an independent woman, free from societal expectations.
In 2017, Italian fitness trainer Laura M married herself following a divorce, citing the act as a means of reclaiming her identity and empowerment. Her ceremony included traditional wedding elements, symbolizing a fresh start and a renewed commitment to herself.
In 2022, Kshama Bindu, a woman from Gujarat, India, became the country’s first known sologamist. She married herself in a traditional Hindu ceremony, complete with cultural rituals, after deciding she didn’t need a partner to experience the joy of being a bride. Bindu, who identifies as bisexual, described her self-marriage as an act of self-love and a challenge to societal norms.
Self-Love and Personal Empowerment
The rise of sologamy challenges conventional ideas of love and relationships by emphasizing self-acceptance, independence, and emotional resilience. While not everyone may embrace the concept of self-marriage, it highlights the importance of cultivating a healthy relationship with oneself. By marrying themselves, individuals like Antoine Cheval demonstrate that love doesn’t always have to come from a partner—it can come from within.
Antoine’s story, along with those of others who have embraced sologamy, serves as a reminder that self-love is foundational to personal happiness. Their actions encourage a broader dialogue about the value of prioritizing oneself and finding fulfillment independent of societal expectations.
So, whether or not sologamy resonates with you, it offers an important lesson: loving and valuing yourself can lead to greater empowerment, happiness, and emotional well-being.
“To Antoine Cheval and everyone who dares to put themselves first—may your stories inspire others to embrace their worth, celebrate who they are, and live authentically.” 
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