Prince Harry recently opened up about his journey with post-traumatic stress disorder following the loss of his mother, Princess Diana. In a candid discussion, he revealed his exploration of a groundbreaking therapy that helped him.
The therapy is called eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) to address the debilitating effects of his anxiety attacks. This revelation offers a glimpse into the royal’s personal struggles and his proactive approach towards mental health care, shedding light on the significance of seeking innovative treatments of traumas.
In a video, Prince Harry can be seen undergoing EMDR therapy, where he taps his shoulders and moves his eyes rapidly. This therapy is relatively new and is used to treat PTSD. Prince Harry shared that he decided to try EMDR to deal with severe anxiety attacks he was experiencing.
Prince Harry mentioned that he was open to trying EMDR because of the therapy and work he had done over the years.
During a therapy session with UK-based psychotherapist Sanja Oakley, Prince Harry demonstrated how EMDR helped him feel better about returning home. He described feeling scared and helpless before, but the therapy helped him cope with those feelings.
Prince Harry’s openness about his experience with EMDR therapy sheds light on alternative treatments for post-traumatic disorder and mental health struggles. It shows that seeking help and trying different therapies can make a difference in managing mental health conditions.
EMDR is a therapy made in 1987 to help with emotional traumas. It’s a structured therapy where you think about a tough memory while moving your eyes back and forth. This helps lessen the strong feelings tied to the memory.
EMDR works on a theory called Adaptive Information Processing (AIP). It says that trauma sticks around because it hasn’t been dealt with properly. So, when something reminds you of the trauma, those memories can come back strongly.
Unlike other therapies that try to lessen your reaction to trauma, EMDR tries to change how your brain stores those tough memories. Sometimes, instead of eye movements, you might listen to alternating tones. Usually, EMDR happens once or twice a week for about six to 12 sessions. But it can vary depending on the person.
Benefits of EMDR therapy
- EMDR is a structured therapy and usually needs fewer sessions than ongoing therapies.
- You don’t have to keep going back to the tough memory for a long time.
- You don’t have to talk a lot about what happened to you.
- There’s no homework to do.
- EMDR doesn’t try to change your thoughts and beliefs.
Disadvantages of EMDR therapy
- While EMDR is known to help with PTSD, it hasn’t been studied as much for other mood or mental health problems.
- If you’re avoiding talking about a tough event, EMDR might not be the best choice. Other types of talk therapy might work better.
- EMDR can sometimes make you feel worse at the start of treatment. The person who created EMDR warns that this could be dangerous for people who have gone through really tough things.
The process of EMDR
EMDR is a structured process with eight phases, each aimed at helping you deal with traumatic memories:
- History taking: Discuss your past with the therapist to identify which memories to focus on.
- Preparation: Learn about EMDR and how the therapist will use bilateral stimulation.
- Assessment: Identify your negative and positive beliefs related to the trauma.
- Desensitization: Use bilateral stimulation while recalling the memory.
- Installation: Focus on positive beliefs while processing the memory.
- Body scan: Talk about how you feel emotionally and physically.
- Closure: Prepare for what may happen between sessions.
- Reevaluation: Assess your progress and decide if more sessions are needed.
As you go through EMDR, you may start feeling less overwhelmed by the trauma. It’s normal for other painful memories to surface, indicating that suppressed memories are being processed.
When grappling with deep emotional traumas, it’s crucial to seek out specialists who can provide the appropriate form of treatment tailored to your needs. Whether it’s EMDR therapy or other therapeutic approaches, finding the right professional can make a significant difference in your healing journey.
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My Twin Sons Stopped Talking After My MIL Spent the Weekend with Us – One Night, I Finally Heard Them Speak and Was Taken Aback
When my twins stopped talking after a visit from their grandmother, I thought it was just a phase. Therapists, doctors—nothing worked. Then, late one night, I overheard them speaking in hushed tones, their words unraveling a secret that shattered everything I thought I knew about my family.
It started with the whispers. Faint, and unclear murmurs coming from Jack and Will’s room. At first, I thought I was dreaming—after all, my twin boys hadn’t uttered a single word in months. But the moment I leaned against their door and heard Jack’s voice, clear and trembling, I froze.
Woman eavesdropping | Source: Midjourney
“I can’t stay silent anymore. This will kill Mom when she finds out.”
Kill me? Find out what? My heart pounded as I strained to hear Will’s reply.
“But you heard Grandma,” he said. “Dad is handling it. And Vivian is waiting for us.”
Vivian? Who’s Vivian? And what on earth did Grandma say?
I didn’t storm in right away—not yet. I felt my legs weaken, every part of me screaming to fling the door open, to hold my boys, to demand answers. But something about the way they spoke, the weight of their words, stopped me cold.
Woman in deep thoughts | Source: Midjourney
To understand how we got here, you need to know this: my mother-in-law, Patricia, visited us exactly twice in ten years. The first time was right after Jack and Will were born.
The second time? Three months ago.
The boys adored her at first. They called her “Gram,” hung on her every word, and begged her to stay longer. And she did. But by the time she left, everything had changed. Patricia took them aside for one “private little chat,” and they haven’t spoken since—not to me, not to their dad, not even to each other.
Senior woman with her two twin grandsons | Source: Midjourney
Therapists, doctors, rewards, punishments—nothing worked. The boys remained silent, their once lively voices replaced by a void that felt like a constant shadow over our home.
Eventually, the specialists gave it a name: Temporary Mutism—a condition where a child might stop speaking, often triggered by shocking news or a traumatic event.
Then, last night, everything changed.
I couldn’t take it anymore. I pushed the door open.
As I entered, my twin boys, Jack and Will, sat on their beds, their backs stiff with tension. For a second, all I could do was stare. They had spoken. After months of suffocating silence, I’d heard their voices.
It felt surreal—like I was dreaming, or maybe losing my mind. My heart raced, caught between elation and dread. Elation because the silence was finally broken. Dread because of what I’d overheard.
Twin boys in their room | Source: Midjourney
“What are you two talking about?” I demanded, my voice trembling. The joy of hearing them speak was quickly replaced by unease. Jack flinched his entire body trembling. Will wouldn’t even look at me. They looked so small, so fragile, and yet so guilty.
Jack finally broke the standoff, his voice shaky and uneven. “Mom, we didn’t mean to… it’s not our fault… please forgive us.”
My heart cracked at his words. Forgive them? For what? My mind raced, struggling to understand. “Forgive you? What are you even talking about?”
Mother talking to her sons | Source: Midjourney
Jack opened his mouth, then shut it again. He looked over at Will, who bit his lip and a moment later blurted out. “Grandma told us not to tell you… but she said we’re not really your kids.”
The world stopped. Not my kids? The words didn’t make sense. They echoed in my head, sharp and cruel, refusing to sink in.
“What?” I whispered, my voice barely audible. “What are you saying?”
“She said we’re not your kids,” Jack mumbled, his head hanging low. He looked as if he wanted to disappear.
“That’s ridiculous,” I said, louder now. “Of course, you’re my kids. Why would she say something like that? That’s… it’s insane.”
Mother talking to her sons | Source: Midjourney
Jack’s wide, glassy eyes met mine. “I don’t believe it either, Mom,” he said, his voice breaking. “I mean… how could you not be our mom?”
My hands trembled as I knelt in front of them, cupping their faces. “Listen to me. Both of you. This is not true. I don’t care what Grandma said. You are my sons. Always.”
“But… what if she’s right?” Will whispered, his voice cracking.
I shook my head, swallowing back the lump in my throat. “No. We’re not entertaining that thought. I know how to put an end to this.”
Mother talking to her sons in their room | Source: Midjourney
Jack frowned, confused. “How?”
I stood up, forcing my voice to stay steady. “We’re doing a DNA test. We’re going to settle this once and for all. And when the results come back, we’ll prove her wrong. Okay?”
They nodded reluctantly, but I could still see the doubt lurking in their eyes. Whatever poison Patricia had poured into their ears, it wasn’t just a lie—it was a ticking time bomb. And I wasn’t going to let it tear my family apart.
A week later, the results came in.
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I was calm—or at least, I convinced myself I was. The sealed envelope in my hand felt heavier than it should, but I didn’t hesitate. I had no doubts. This was just a formality to dispel the poison Patricia had whispered into my sons’ ears.
But when I tore the envelope open at the kitchen table and read the words, everything stopped.
0% related. No genetic match.
I froze, staring at the results.
Shocked woman staring at DNA results | Source: Midjourney
I reread them, hoping something would change but there it was in cold, clinical letters. Jack and Will weren’t mine. My hands trembled, crushing the paper in my fists. It didn’t make sense. It couldn’t make sense. But it was there, undeniable.
By the time I reached Patricia’s house, my shock had been replaced by fury. I banged on her door so hard my knuckles ached. She answered almost immediately, her expression fading when she saw my face.
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“You,” I scoffed, shoving the papers into her hands. “You did this. You’ve been poisoning my kids against me, and now this? A DNA test says they’re not mine? Start talking, Patricia. NOW.”
For the first time in years, she looked nervous. “I… I can explain,” she stammered.
“Then explain,” I snapped, my voice breaking. “Because right now, I’m about five seconds from losing it.”
“Sit down,” she said quietly, motioning to the couch. “You need to hear the truth.”
I didn’t sit. I couldn’t. My legs felt too unstable. “Say it,” I demanded, my voice shaking.
Senior woman confronted by her daughter-in-law | Source: Midjourney
“When you gave birth… there were complications,” she began hesitantly. “You lost a lot of blood. You were unconscious for days. And… the babies didn’t make it.”
I froze. My body went numb. “What?”
“It was Daniel’s idea,” she rushed on. “There was another woman at the hospital. She gave birth to twins but didn’t want to keep them. He thought… we thought… it would be better for you. You wouldn’t survive losing them. Since I knew the surgeon, we made a deal.”
She continued, ” I convinced him to write that Vivian’s twins died while yours were okay and replaced them.”
Newborn twins in the hospital | Source: Midjourney
My breath caught, tears blurring my vision. “You lied to me. You stole them—”
“We saved you,” she cut me off, her voice firm. “You had no idea. You loved them from the start. What difference does it make?”
What difference does it make? Her words slammed into me like a blow, leaving me gasping. Everything—my boys, my life—was built on a lie.
Patricia’s words hung in the air like smoke, choking me. My vision blurred as she continued her story, each word slicing deeper into me.
Woman in deep thoughts | Source: Midjourney
“Their biological mother found out,” Patricia said. “We don’t know how. Maybe the hospital records, maybe someone talked. But she tracked us down. She wanted to meet them—Jack and Will. Daniel and I refused, of course. We thought we could keep her quiet.”
“You thought?” I echoed, my voice barely above a whisper.
Patricia shifted uncomfortably. “She threatened to tell you. She was relentless. Daniel panicked—he thought if you found out, it would destroy you. So we decided to tell the boys instead. We thought they’d understand. That they’d keep quiet until we figured it out.”
Senior woman confronted by her daughter-in-law | Source: Midjourney
“You told them?” My voice cracked, and I was suddenly on my feet, pacing the room. “You told my children—the only children I’ve ever known—that I’m not their mother? That some stranger is?”
“They had to know!” Patricia snapped. “Their biological mother wasn’t going away. She was blackmailing us.”
“And instead of telling me,” I interrupted, my fury spilling over, “you dumped that burden on two ten-year-olds and told them to stay silent?”
Patricia’s eyes hardened. “We didn’t have a choice. We did what was best for you, for them.“
Senior woman talking to her daughter in law | Source: Midjourney
I laughed bitterly, tears streaming down my face. “Best for me? You destroyed them! Do you have any idea what you’ve done?”
The pieces fell into place—the silence, the haunted looks, the cryptic whispers. Jack and Will had been carrying this terrible secret alone. No wonder they’d stopped talking.
At that moment, the front door swung open. Daniel walked in, his face falling as he saw the papers clenched in my hand. “You told her,” he muttered to Patricia.
“No,” I said, my voice steady now. “She didn’t tell me. The DNA test did.“
Daniel froze. For the first time in years, I saw fear in his eyes.
Nervous man standing in the hallway | Source: Midjourney
I stepped closer, my voice trembling with rage. “You both lied to me. You stole my right to grieve, to make my own choices. And now you’ve put my boys through hell. I’ll never forgive you for this.”
Turning to Patricia, I added coldly, “But you’re wrong about one thing. I am their mother. I always have been. And you—both of you—will never come near them again.”
Jack’s voice cut through the silence. “Mom?”
I turned to see him standing in the doorway, tears in his eyes. “We told Grandma we’d never say anything. But… we don’t want to meet her. You’re our mom. That’s all that matters.”
My knees buckled, but I managed to pull him into a hug. “That’s all that’s ever mattered,” I whispered.
Mother hugging her son | Source: Midjourney
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