Life sure loves to test us with its unexpected twists. Just about a month ago, I faced a situation that really made me rethink the dynamics in our family. I’m Nancy, and here’s a little glimpse into the rollercoaster that my life has been lately.
I’ve been the primary earner for most of my marriage to Liam. I was always bustling around, serving tables at a downtown restaurant. That was until I broke my leg. Suddenly, I was thrown into a reality where I couldn’t work, and our family’s financial buffer started to thin dangerously.
Liam has tried to pick up the slack with various odd jobs here and there, but it’s hardly been enough. With money tight and my medical bills piling up, our household has been under a lot of stress. Our three kids, though young, feel the tension and I hate that they have to see us like this.
We’ve had our fair share of ups and downs in our seven years together, but nothing quite like this. From dealing with the usual chaos of raising kids to navigating financial worries when we bought our first house, we’ve managed to stick it out together. However, the current strain is showing us in a new light, particularly Liam.
Yesterday was particularly hard. It was one of those days that dragged on, each minute slower than the last, and by the evening, the kids and I were practically starving. Our fridge was nearly empty, echoing the hollow feeling in my stomach. We were all eagerly waiting for Liam, hoping he’d bring back something to eat.
When he finally walked in, the relief was palpable. That relief turned to disbelief when he pulled out just one single meal from a bag – a burger for himself. The kids watched wide-eyed as their dad started eating in front of us without a word.
Shocked, I managed to utter, “Aren’t you going to share?” His response floored me. “If I’m the only one working, I deserve a treat when I want one,” Liam declared, dismissing my shocked expression.
His words lingered in the air, heavy and cold. He suggested I should manage our food supplies better, leaving me stunned and speechless. It felt like a slap in the face. I couldn’t believe he’d become so indifferent to our situation.
That night, I lay awake, his words replaying in my mind. The image of Liam eating while our kids looked on hungrily was etched into my memory. It was clear that something had to change. We couldn’t go on like this; the kids were watching and learning from our actions.
Determined to make Liam understand the impact of his actions, I decided on a plan. The next morning, I got up early despite my leg pain and prepared breakfast with what little food we had left – just enough for the kids and me.
When Liam came to the kitchen and realized there was no food for him, he looked confused and asked, “Where’s my breakfast?”
I responded calmly, though my heart was racing. “Since you’re the only one working, I thought you’d prefer to treat yourself again. You also suggested I portion better; perhaps you should have considered that before eating a meal for one in front of your hungry family.”
The tension in the air was thick as Liam processed the lesson I’d mirrored back to him. It was a hard moment for both of us, but necessary.
The day passed with a heavy silence between us. Liam left for work without a word, and I was left to reflect on everything that had unfolded. It was a painful reckoning, but it sparked a change in Liam that I hadn’t seen coming.
To my surprise, Liam came home that evening not just with apologies but with groceries to cook us all dinner – something he hadn’t done since our early days together. As we sat down to eat, he looked at me with genuine remorse and said, “I’m sorry, I didn’t realize how much I’ve been taking you and everything you do for granted.”
He admitted the pressure of being the sole provider had overwhelmed him, and he had lost sight of what was truly important – our family. It was a heartfelt moment of vulnerability that brought us back together.
We ended the day with a newfound understanding and appreciation for each other’s struggles. Liam’s act of cooking dinner and his sincere apology showed his commitment to mending our relationship and supporting our family through these tough times.
From that day on, Liam made sure to include us more in his decisions and efforts, recognizing that we are stronger together. It was a tough lesson learned, but it reminded us of the importance of empathy and teamwork in our marriage. And for that, I am grateful.
Nurse believed that the young girl’s family was not aware of what she did daily
One of the worse things is cancer, even more so when it’s concerning children.
Jonathan and Shelby thought that their daughter, Sophie, who is two years old, was suffering from allergies. She was finding it hard to breathe and her doctor thought it might be asthma. Unfortunately, it was soon going to be evident that it was much worse!
The little girl, Sophie was set to have an allergy test a few day later, but she didn’t get to take that test.
One night she stopped breathing…
For every parent it’s a worse case scenario, Her parents ran to call an ambulance and within minutes they were on their way to the hospital.
It was just at that moment that doctors finally confirmed that Sophie had a condition that was much worse than just asthma or allergies. She had developed cancer, a T-cell lymphoma.
Sophie has since then spent many months in hospital having chemotherapy, even though fighting it hard the cancer spread.
The treatment affected her ability to talk, walk, use her hands to eat, her tiny body is going through the preparations for a stem cell operation.
Shelby is keeping a constant watch over her daughter and is by her side constantly. So many times Shelby forgets to take care of herself, it’s just the only thought she has, to get Sophie better!
Jonathan and Shelby have created a Facebook page to record Sophie’s fight against the disease, they want friends and family alike to have an easy method to see updates on how Sophie is getting along. The page is called Sophie The Brave.
It’s not just family that follows the page, there are over 12,000 people following Sophie’s fight.
There is one post on the page that has especially been welcomed. Moms with sick children will also relate, very likely, to what Shelby’s said.
Shelby wrote:
“I see you. I sit on this couch all day long and, I see you. You try so hard to be unnoticed by me and my child. I see your face drop a little when she sees you and cries. You try so many ways to ease her fears and win her over. I see you hesitate to stick her or pull bandaids off. You say ‘No owies’ and ‘I’m sorry’ more times in one day than most people say ‘thank you’..”
“I see all of those rubber bracelets on your arms and wrapped around your stethoscope, each one for a child that you’ve cared for and loved. I see you stroke her little bald head and tuck her covers around her tightly. I see you holding the crying mom that got bad news.I see you trying to chart on the computer while holding the baby whose mom can’t-or won’t be at the hospital with her.”
“You put aside what’s happening in your life for 12 hours straight to care for very sick and something’s dying children. You go into each room with a smile no matter what’s happening in there. You see Sophie’s name on the schedule and come to check on us even when she isn’t your patient. You call the doctor, blood bank, and pharmacy as many times as necessary to get my child what she needs in a timely manner. You check on me as often as you check on her. You sit and listen to me ramble for 10 minutes even though your phone is buzzing and your to do list is a mile long.
“I see you. We all see you. No amount of snack baskets or cards can fully express how appreciated you are. You are Jesus to us every single day. Our children wouldn’t get what they need without you. Moms like me wouldn’t feel sane or heard without you. You save our babies and we couldn’t do this without you.”
Shelby got 26,000 likes on her post, its easy to see and understand why, all the amazing people at the hospital, the nurses, all deserve to be thanked and recognized for their great work.
Let’s all hope and pray that Sophie makes a fast recovery, and as it happens the family got some really great news, Sophie’s cancer is almost all gone!
Let’s also share Shelby’s words about the nursery and hospital staff so that more and more people can hear about the amazing work they do.
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