I Told My Date about My Specific 3-Year-Rule, but He Immediately Left and Blocked Me – Is It Really That Weird?

Addison’s life revolves around her demanding job as a neurologist, leaving little time for romance. When her cheerful coworker Nathan sets her up on a blind date with a seemingly perfect guy named Jake, she finally feels a spark of hope. However, after Addison shares her three-year dating rule, her date abruptly leaves. What went wrong?

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I always thought my life would stay the same.

Day in and day out, the hospital consumed all my time.

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My name is Addison, and I work as a neurologist. My days are filled with patients, charts, and endless rounds.

It’s a fulfilling job, but it leaves little room for anything else, especially dating.

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One day, while grabbing a quick coffee in the break room, my coworker Nathan walked in with a bright smile on his face.

Nathan is always in a good mood, no matter how stressful the day gets.

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A smiling doctor | Source: Midjourney

“Hey, Addison,” Nathan said, leaning against the counter. “How do you feel about blind dates?”

I laughed, almost spilling my coffee. “Blind dates? Nathan, you know my schedule. I barely have time to eat, let alone date.”

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Nathan chuckled. “I know, but hear me out. My friend Jake is a great guy. He’s kind, funny, and I think you two would hit it off. What do you say?”

I paused, considering it. I hadn’t been on a date in ages, and the idea of meeting someone new was intriguing. Plus, Nathan seemed genuinely excited about it.

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“Okay, then,” I said, smiling. “You’ve convinced me. When’s this magical date happening?”

Nathan’s face lit up. “Really?? How about next Tuesday night? It’s the only evening that works for both of you!”

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Next Tuesday. I mentally checked my calendar. It was one of the rare nights I didn’t have a late shift or any other commitments.

“Next Tuesday works for me,” I said. “Let’s do it.”

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Nathan grinned. “Great! I’ll set it up and text you the details. You won’t regret this, Addison,” he said with a wink.

“We’ll see that,” I laughed and finished my coffee quickly.

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As I walked back to my office, I felt both excited and nervous. It had been so long since I had gone on a date.

My life had become a routine of work and more work, with little time for anything else. But maybe this was what I needed — a chance to step out of my comfort zone.

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The rest of the day flew by in a blur of patient consultations and medical charts. But in the back of my mind, I kept thinking about the upcoming date. Maybe, just maybe, this blind date with Jake would be the start of something new.

On Tuesday night, I arrived at the quaint restaurant Nathan had suggested.

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It was cozy, with dim lighting and a warm ambiance that immediately put me at ease. As I walked in, I spotted a man sitting at a table near the window.

He looked up, smiled, and waved me over.

This must be Jake, I thought to myself.

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“Addison?” he asked as I approached the table.

“Yes, and you must be Jake,” I replied with a smile.

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We shook hands, and I took a seat. Almost immediately, the waitress came over to take our drink orders.

“I’ll have a glass of red wine, please,” I said.

“I’ll have the same,” Jake added.

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As the waitress left, we started chatting. Jake was easy to talk to, and I felt my initial nervousness melt away.

“So, Nathan tells me you’re a neurologist,” he said, looking genuinely interested. “That must be a challenging job.”

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“It is,” I nodded. “But I love it. What about you? What do you do?”

“I’m a graphic designer,” Jake replied. “I work freelance, so my schedule is pretty flexible. It’s a lot of fun, especially when I get to work on creative projects.”

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Our drinks arrived, and we ordered appetizers — stuffed mushrooms and bruschetta. As we nibbled on the delicious food, we continued to talk about our lives, hobbies, and interests.

“I love hiking and photography,” Jake said, taking a sip of his wine. “There’s something about being in nature that’s so refreshing.”

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“I’ve always wanted to get into photography,” I said. “But I never seem to find the time. Maybe you could give me some tips?”

“I’d love to,” Jake said with a smile. “It’s all about finding the right light and angle.”

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As the evening went on, I found myself more and more charmed by Jake. He was kind, funny, and easy to talk to.

We laughed a lot, and it felt like I had known him for much longer than just one evening.

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As we moved on to our main course, Jake looked at me with a smile. “So, Addison, how about we ask each other some more personal questions to break the ice further?”

“Sure, that sounds good,” I said. “What do you want to know?”

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Jake leaned in slightly. “How about your one-to-five-year plan? What are your goals?”

I took a moment to think. “Well, I hope to advance in my career as a neurologist,” I began.

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“Maybe get promoted to a senior position. I also want to decorate my apartment; it feels too plain right now,” I continued. “I’ve been thinking about getting a pet, maybe a cat or a small dog. And I’d love to travel more, see new places, and experience different cultures. Oh, and I want to expand my bookshelf with my favorite novels. I love reading!”

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“That sounds wonderful. You have a lot of exciting plans!” he grinned.

“What about you?” I asked, curious to hear about his future plans.

“I want to grow my freelance business,” Jake said. “Maybe open my own studio one day. I also love traveling, so I’d like to visit more countries. And, believe it or not, I’ve been thinking about getting a pet too. A dog, probably.”

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We laughed at the coincidence, and it felt nice to find common ground!

“So, how do you feel about marriage and family?” Jake further asked as he sipped his wine.

And this is where it all went horribly wrong.

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“Honestly, I’d love to find a partner to share my life with,” I told him, “someone who understands and supports me. But marriage isn’t a necessity for me. If it happens, great, but if not, that’s okay too. As for children, I don’t see myself having any. For now. I’m happy with my career and personal goals.”

Jake leaned forward, looking serious. “What if you found the perfect guy? How long before you’d marry him?”

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“Three years,” I said. “I believe in building a strong foundation. Six months to really get to know someone, a year of serious dating, and a year and a half of living together before considering engagement or marriage.”

Jake’s face changed, his friendly expression replaced by a frown. He leaned back in his chair, crossing his arms. “Three years? That’s a long time. What if someone wants a quicker timeline?”

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I felt a knot forming in my stomach. “Well, uh, I think it’s important to take time to build a strong relationship. I’m pretty confident about my three-year-plan.”

Jake’s frown deepened, and he abruptly called the waitress. “Check, please,” he said curtly. She looked confused but quickly brought the bill.

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“Jake, what’s wrong?” I asked as he stood up, but he didn’t bother to answer. He paid and walked out of the restaurant without a glance back.

I sat there, stunned and hurt. What just happened?

Later, at home, I couldn’t stop thinking about the evening.

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A woman staring at her reflection | Source: Pexels

How could Jake just leave like that?

Deciding I needed answers, I messaged him.

I sent a selfie we took together and wrote, “Hey Jake, why did you leave so suddenly? I thought we were having a great time.”

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A few minutes later, his reply came: “Don’t contact me again. You’re indecisive and not serious about what you want.”

Then, he blocked me.

I stared at my phone in disbelief. Was I really that off base?

The next day at work, I noticed Nathan giving me strange glances. Gathering my courage, I decided to confront him.

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“Nathan, what did Jake tell you? You know why he left, don’t you?” I asked, trying to keep my voice steady.

Nathan looked uncomfortable and shifted on his feet. “You messed it up, Addy,” he said. “Jake… told me you were wasting his time. He wanted something serious. He was looking for marriage, and you… you weren’t the best person for him. Sorry, I gotta go.”

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I couldn’t believe it.

During my lunch break, I called my best friend, Sophie.

“Hey, Addison. How did the date go?” was the first thing she asked.

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I sighed, feeling the weight of the evening pressing on me. “It started great, but then it ended terribly. Jake left abruptly after I talked about my three-year plan, and then he blocked me when I asked him why.”

Sophie’s eyes widened. “He did what? That’s ridiculous! What exactly happened?”

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A sad young doctor | Source: Midjourney

I recounted every detail, my voice trembling slightly as I relived the evening. When I finished, Sophie shook her head. “Addison, being honest about your expectations is important. If he couldn’t handle that, it’s his loss.”

“I can’t stop wondering if my three-year rule is really that strange, Sophie,” I admitted, my voice breaking a bit.

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“Not at all,” Sophie said firmly. “Everyone has their own timeline and needs. What matters is that you stay true to yourself. If he couldn’t appreciate that, he wasn’t the right guy for you.”

Her words wrapped around me like a comforting blanket. But it didn’t ease all my worries. Was I wrong to be upfront about my expectations? Should I have kept it to myself? All I know is that being honest about what I want is important, even if it means losing a date like Jake.

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My 5-Year-Old Daughter Told Me I’m Not Her Real Dad

Josh’s entire world is shaken when his young daughter unexpectedly reveals a family secret that challenges the very core of their existence. As undisclosed affairs come to the surface, a simple DNA test emerges as the crucial tool in untangling the intricate web of deception and rediscovering the true essence of family.

I’m still grappling with the situation, and honestly, I’m at a loss. My little daughter, Amy, only five years old, dropped a bombshell on me that has shattered my reality. She casually mentioned, “Daddy, you know you’re not my real dad, right?” Initially, I brushed it off, thinking she was confused or perhaps playing a game. Kids can have wild imaginations, after all. Or maybe she had picked up something unusual from TV. I laughed it off, attempting to gently correct her, but the seriousness in her eyes gave me pause.

The instant she said it, I was hit with a wave of shock, as if an icy cold wave crashed over me. Initially, I couldn’t believe it. How could my daughter, the little girl I’ve nurtured and cherished since her birth, utter such words? I tried to reassure myself that she must have misunderstood something she heard or saw.

However, as I looked into her innocent eyes, a sinking feeling took hold of me. The way she mentioned it so matter-of-factly, without grasping the gravity of her words, tore at my heart.

The shock swiftly turned into heartache. The idea that I might not be her biological father was incomprehensible. It felt like the ground was slipping from beneath me. My mind was flooded with questions and fears.

Had Jill, my wife, deceived me? Was there something from the past that I was oblivious to? The notion that my family might not be what I thought it was left me devastated.

“Then who is your real dad, sweetie?” I asked tenderly.

“Uncle Andrew,” she blurted out, before returning to her dolls, leaving me speechless.

I was bewildered. I adore Amy more than anything, and the prospect of a hidden truth like this has left me feeling betrayed and utterly shattered. My mind was swirling with questions. How do I even begin to address this situation? How do I approach Jill about it without causing further strain? I was afraid of what I might uncover, but I knew I had to unearth the truth for Amy’s sake and mine.

I resolved to discuss Amy’s unsettling words with Jill. I needed clarity, for both Amy’s well-being and mine. So, despite the storm of emotions raging within me, I approached Jill calmly. I relayed what Amy had said, observing Jill’s reaction closely. She chuckled it off, but her laughter seemed forced, almost nervous. In that moment, I sensed there was more to this than a child’s imagination run wild.

To delve deeper into the matter, I arranged a playdate not just for Amy but also for Kyle, Andrew’s child. I anticipated a typical day, yet I remained on high alert, monitoring their interactions, searching for any clues or indications. Jill’s uneasy laughter lingered in my mind, and I couldn’t shake the feeling that this innocent playdate might uncover more than mere child’s play. It was a plunge into the unknown, but I was determined to uncover the truth, whatever it may be.

As Amy and Kyle played, I observed Andrew closely. Something about his demeanor around Amy struck me as odd, too familiar, too intimate for an uncle. I remained vigilant, listening intently, and what I overheard shattered me completely.

In her innocent, childlike manner, Amy asked Andrew, “When will we tell Josh that you’re my real Daddy?”

“Soon, sweetheart. But until then, it’s our little secret.”

My heart skipped a beat. The pain of those words was unbearable. It felt as though the ground had collapsed beneath me. Anger, betrayal, and an overwhelming sadness engulfed me.

At that moment, I realized that this wasn’t merely a child’s misunderstanding or a fabricated tale. It was a hidden truth, concealed in plain sight, and it was tearing me apart. I maintained my composure outwardly, but internally, I was screaming. How long had this lie festered? How could Andrew participate in this charade right under my nose?

After the playdate, I was distraught, but I needed answers, I craved the truth. I confronted Jill once more, armed with what Amy and Andrew had disclosed. I demanded an explanation, no more brushing it off, no more justifications. The joviality of the playdate had devolved into a nightmare, but I was determined to confront it head-on, prepared for whatever revelations ensued.

The confrontation with Jill surpassed my expectations in intensity. As soon as I broached the subject of what Amy and Andrew had discussed, the tension was palpable. Jill’s usual composed demeanor crumbled, and she broke into tears, her facade crumbling under the weight of reality.

Amidst her sobs, she admitted to a brief affair with Andrew. She attempted to rationalize her actions by citing feelings of neglect and loneliness during a rough patch in our marriage.

According to her, my workaholic tendencies and emotional distance drove her into Andrew’s arms. She painted a picture of vulnerability and desperation, a moment of weakness where she sought comfort in the wrong place.

However, her tears and justifications fell on deaf ears. My heart was too consumed by betrayal and pain to entertain her explanations. The agony of her confession, coupled with the ongoing deceit surrounding Amy’s paternity, left no room for compassion. All I could think about was the deception that had permeated my household, the trust that had been irrevocably shattered.

I was adamant about my next course of action: a DNA test. It was the only means of piercing through the lies and uncertainties, of reintroducing truth into our lives. I informed Jill of my decision, emphasizing its non-negotiable nature.

The imperative need to ascertain whether Amy was indeed my biological daughter eclipsed all other considerations. That moment marked the commencement of the end of our marriage as we knew it, propelling us into a maelstrom of legal and emotional turmoil that would redefine our family’s future.

The wait for the DNA test results was agonizing. Each day felt interminable, a relentless stretch of time teeming with anxiety, hope, and dread. My mind was in constant turmoil, vacillating between the hope that Amy was mine and the terror of an alternative reality.

During those interminable moments, I found myself reminiscing about every shared memory, every shared laugh, and every tear with Amy. She was my precious daughter, the light of my life. The notion of her not being my biological child was unfathomable, a potential reality that threatened to upend everything I held dear.

When the results finally arrived, my hands trembled as I tore open the envelope. It felt as though the entire world held its breath, awaiting the outcome along with me. As I perused the document confirming that Amy was indeed my biological daughter, a surge of relief and jubilation washed over me. It was a moment of profound clarity and validation, severing the tangled web of lies and deceit.

The joy of knowing that Amy was mine was tempered by the anguish of betrayal and the imminent dissolution of our family as I knew it. Nevertheless, in that instant, the bond between Amy and me emerged as the one unequivocal truth amidst the chaos. This revelation fortified my determination to safeguard and cherish our relationship, irrespective of the legal and emotional battles that lay ahead.

Following the emotional upheaval of the DNA test and confronting the harsh truths within our marriage, I took the inevitable next step: serving Jill with divorce papers. The decision was not made lightly, but it became evident that our marriage was beyond salvage. The breach of trust was irreparable, and I needed to prioritize the well-being of Amy and myself.

The divorce proceedings were arduous, fraught with legal complexities and emotional turmoil. However, amidst the chaos, there was a silver lining: securing joint custody of Amy. It was imperative to me that despite everything, Amy would not lose access to either of her parents. She required stability and affection, particularly during such tumultuous times.

Throughout this ordeal, my primary objective was to shield Amy from the adult complexities and preserve her innocence. We endeavored to ensure that everything was as seamless as possible for her, ensuring that she felt loved and secure. Despite the pain and betrayal, I refused to let my relationship with Jill impede Amy’s bond with her mother. Children need love, not discord.

Now, with the divorce finalized and custody arrangements in place, I feel a sense of relief. The bond between Amy and me remains unscathed, reinforced by the trials we have endured. We are moving forward, just the two of us, reconstructing our lives with new routines and a deeper connection. The ordeal was agonizing, but it brought clarity and, ultimately, a fresh start for Amy and me. Our bond is unbreakable; we are navigating this new chapter together, with hope and resilience.

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