Woman Insists Her Son Leaves His Pregnant Wife at Home for Her Birthday, but He Responds, ‘My Wife Comes First’
A man felt he had to take his wife’s side regarding a family dispute. However, his mother became angry at him for doing so, so he turned to the internet to find out if he was right.
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A man took to Reddit for advice regarding his pregnant wife and his mother’s birthday. He explained that it was his mother’s birthday at the same time that his seven-month-pregnant wife was feeling uncomfortable and particularly sensitive.
The man offered to take his mother to dinner for her birthday, and she picked a place that was a 40-minute drive away. The man told his mother he didn’t want to travel that far as his wife was uncomfortable traveling long distances in a car.
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He also explained to his mother that his wife could eat little on the menu because it was a seafood restaurant, and his wife couldn’t eat shellfish. He then asked his mother if she would choose a nearby restaurant.
The man’s mother refused, saying the only good seafood restaurants were farther away. The man then suggested that his mother choose a different cuisine, noting that they had Mexican and Hibachi near them, which he knew his mother loved.
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The man’s mother became angry and told him his wife could stay home while they went to dinner. She found it startling that a grown woman couldn’t stay home alone for a few hours while her husband went to dinner.
After telling his mother that his wife wouldn’t be pregnant forever and asking her to work with them, his mother told him to forget about it and yelled that her birthday was not about his wife. The man responded, “My wife comes first.”
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The man also accused his mother of being selfish and childish, so she hung up the phone. This led to the man’s family telling him he was wrong and his wife crying because the whole family was upset with her for ruining her mother-in-law’s birthday.
The man asked netizens whether or not he was justified in standing up for his wife and asking his mom to change her birthday plans. He received many mixed responses from fellow Reddit users.
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One user told the man he was justified in his reaction, and they were glad he was standing up for his wife. They then asked if his mother often acted this way toward his wife, to which he responded in the affirmative. The man also said that his mother’s fiancée had taken her to the restaurant, which he found was enabling her bad behavior.
Another netizen told the man he was wrong for making it seem like the situation was his wife’s fault and said they would not have stopped their husband from going somewhere they didn’t want to go when they were pregnant. The person also noted that their husband wouldn’t have blamed it on them if he didn’t want to go somewhere.
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One opinion was that the man should have told his mother he was sorry he would miss the event and let his mother feel however she felt. The person suggested offering coffee and cake at home instead of going out for dinner.
Some netizens were confused by the post, wondering why the man’s wife factored into his mother’s birthday as he didn’t say they were both treating his mother to a birthday dinner. They asked whether or not his wife didn’t want him to go anywhere while she was pregnant.
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One more person said the man was wrong for inadvertently making his wife take the blame for the situation. The person clarified that they didn’t think the mother’s fiancée taking her to the restaurant was enabling but supportive.
The person also said that the man and his wife had the option of going to the restaurant and not ordering seafood, as they had often gone to seafood restaurants despite not eating seafood and had never struggled to find something on the menu that they wanted to eat.
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The person ended their comment by saying that their judgment of the entire situation would be different if the man’s wife had a deadly allergy to seafood. The man received many other supportive comments, telling him he was right for standing up for his wife and his unborn child despite his mother’s adverse reaction.
My Mom Excluded My Wife and Stepdaughter from Family Dinner, So I Taught Her a Real Lesson on What Being a Family Means
When Jake’s conservative Mom goes to extremes to exclude his wife and stepdaughter from a family dinner, he decides to teach her a harsh lesson about the meaning of family.
I’m Jake. I want to share a story about standing up for my family, despite some serious disapproval from someone who should have been supportive. Here’s how it all started.
A year ago, I met Linda, and my life changed forever. She’s amazing—kind, smart, and incredibly strong.
And with her came her little daughter, May. From the first moment we met, May and I clicked. She has this infectious laugh that brightens up even the gloomiest days.
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May’s dad isn’t in the picture, so I naturally stepped into that role. It felt right like she was always meant to be part of my life.
But then there’s my mom. She’s very conservative and has rigid views about what a family should look like. Linda is Black, and while Mom never said anything outright, her actions spoke volumes. She always had an excuse whenever we invited her over.
The real heartbreak happened at our wedding.
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My mom refused to be in any family photos. I remember trying to hold back my tears as she looked at me with a faint sneer.
“This won’t last,” she muttered as she swept past me. “You’ll come to your senses, eventually.”
Linda heard her nasty remark and cried her eyes out that night. Mom’s disapproval left a lasting scar on what should have been a perfect day.
But a few weeks ago, Mom pulled a stunt that pushed me over the edge.
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Here’s what went down: Mom called me on a Saturday afternoon in a hysterical panic, claiming she was having a heart attack.
I could barely understand her through the sobs and pain-filled gasps. My heart was racing as I dropped everything and rushed to her house, fearing the worst.
When I got there, my heart sank, but not for the reason I thought it would.
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There she was, sitting comfortably on the couch, looking perfectly fine. Surrounding her were my brothers, their wives, and their kids—her biological grandchildren. Everyone except me, Linda, and May.
My mom smirked when she saw me and said, “Finally, our family is together without that burden you always drag with you.”
“What are you talking about?” I asked, still reeling from shock. “What’s going on here?”
“We’re having a family dinner,” Mom replied breezily.
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“I lied about the heart attack,” she added, “because it was the only way to get you here alone.”
I was stunned, standing there like an idiot while my mom looked pleased with herself. I couldn’t believe she would stoop so low as to fake a heart attack just to exclude my family.
Anger bubbled up inside me, but I kept my cool. I knew losing my temper wouldn’t solve anything. Instead, I decided to play along.
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“Oh, thank God you’re alright, Mom,” I said, forcing a smile. “You really had me worried.”
She looked so smug, thinking she had won some kind of battle. But inside, I was seething. I knew I had to teach her a lesson she wouldn’t forget.
Over the next few days, I thought about how I could show her what real family means. That’s when I came up with the idea for the photo album.
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I went through old family photos and found every picture that included Linda and May. There were so many happy memories, and seeing them only strengthened my resolve.
I made copies of those photos and created a beautiful photo album labeled “Our Complete Family.” I wanted my mom to see how happy and complete my family was with Linda and May.
Then, I invited Mom over for a special family dinner. To ensure she came, I baited the trap by hinting that I planned to divorce Linda.
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When my mom arrived, she acted like she had won some sort of victory. Little did she know what was coming.
“Mom, I’m really glad you came,” I said, trying to keep my tone light and welcoming. “It’s been too long since we all sat down together.”
Linda greeted her politely, and May ran up to give her a hug. I could see the hesitation in my mom’s eyes, but she awkwardly patted May on the back. It was a start, at least.
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Mom seemed to relax over dinner, thinking she had achieved her goal of separating me from Linda and May. I kept the conversation light, talking about work and harmless family gossip.
Afterward, I cleared my throat and said, “I have something special for you, Mom.”
I pulled out the photo album I had prepared, labeled “Our Complete Family.” I handed it to her with a smile.
She opened the album, and her expression shifted from curiosity to confusion to outright anger as she flipped through the pages.
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“What is this supposed to mean?” she snapped, her voice icy.
“It means this is my family, and they are not a burden,” I said firmly. “Linda and May are part of my life, and they always will be. You need to accept that, or you won’t be included in our lives anymore.”
Her face turned red, and she opened her mouth to argue, but I didn’t give her the chance.
“There’s more,” I continued.
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“Linda and I are renewing our vows next month, and you’re invited.” I sternly looked Mom in the eye. “But only if you promise to respect Linda and May.”
She was speechless, but I didn’t stop there. I took Linda’s hand and said, “I’m also in the process of adopting May officially. She will be my daughter in every way.”
The room was silent. My mom’s face shifted rapidly from shock to anger, and back again, but I could see the realization dawning on her that I wasn’t going to back down.
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Finally, she stormed out, slamming the door behind her. The tension in the room dissipated, and a sense of relief washed over me. Linda hugged me tightly, tears in her eyes, and May looked up at me with a big smile.
“Thank you, Jake,” Linda whispered. “For standing up for us.”
“Always,” I replied, kissing her forehead. “You two are my family, and nothing will ever change that.”
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So, after I dropped the bombshell about renewing our vows and adopting May, the fallout was immediate.
A couple of days later, my brothers started calling me, saying Mom was furious and felt betrayed. They wanted to know what had happened. I explained how Mom’s behavior had been hurting Linda and May and how it was unacceptable.
To my surprise, they understood.
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“Jake, we had no idea it was this bad,” my oldest brother, Tom, said. “Mom’s always been stubborn, but this is too much. You did the right thing.”
My younger brother, Sam, chimed in, “Yeah, man. We support you. Family is about love and acceptance, not just blood. We’ll talk to Mom and try to make her see that.”
Their support was a huge relief. It felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. My brothers were on my side, and that meant everything.
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About a week later, I got a call from Mom. Her voice was shaky, and I could tell she had been crying. She wanted to talk, so I invited her over. To my surprise, she appeared at my doorstep soon afterward, looking worn out and remorseful.
“Jake, I’m so sorry,” she began, tears streaming down her face. “I was so blinded by my own prejudices that I didn’t see how much I was hurting you and our family.”
“Our family?” I asked pointedly.
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“All of our family,” she replied, nodding toward the living room, where Linda and May were watching TV. “From today, I’ll do better by Linda and May. I’ll make things right.”
It wasn’t an instant fix, but it was a start. We began to rebuild our relationship, step by step. Mom made a real effort to get to know Linda and May, and over time, things got better. She even attended our vow renewal ceremony and treated Linda and May with the respect they deserved.
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So, the lesson here? Stand up for your loved ones, even against your family. Sometimes, people need a harsh wake-up call to realize their mistakes. And never let anyone make your loved ones feel like a burden.
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