A lot of big, tragic and important things have happened to this wonderful country of ours since April 2014. None of which I have covered. I was too busy writing about hungover parenting, ancient philosophy and my dog Colin.
Out of the 536 columns I have written, 27 were about that guy. Far too few. He is such a good boy, he deserves an article a week.
Today is the end of an era for me, and whenever these final events pop up in our lives, we can’t help but think about the ultimate end.
Everything we do, we will one day do for the last time. That’s why you have to enjoy things while they are around. It’s not just big events like leaving a job, house or loved one either. Whatever moment you happen to be in now, you will never get it back, and you don’t know how many more you have.
Everything we do in life, from eating pizza to spending time with the people we love, to driving, writing, drinking or breathing, we will one day experience for the final time. It might happen tomorrow. This can be either a depressing or an inspiring thought, depending on how you look at it.
A few years back in this column, I interviewed professor of philosophy William B Irvine, of Wright State University, Ohio, on this very topic. He put it this way on a Zoom call: “Recognition of the impermanence of everything in life can invest the things we do with a significance and intensity that would otherwise be absent. The only way we can be truly alive is if we make it our business periodically to entertain thoughts of the end.”
Today’s column is very meaningful to me because it is my last. Like the last night with a lover before she goes overseas. And just like a lover, there have been some half-arsed efforts put in from me over the years. Last week, for example, I spent 750 words moaning about how bad my cricket team is. But the truth is that any of my columns could have been the final. If I had reminded myself every week for the past 10 years that the end is inevitable, I may have been more grateful for having a column and appreciated writing them all as much as I am this one.
While everything we do could have more meaning with a focus on finitude, some things are inherently more worthwhile than others. There is no doubt my column “The pros and cons of wearing Speedos” from November 2022 was less meaningful than most things in this world. That was a waste of everyone’s time. So, if we only have so much time, how do we pick the best things to do?
Well, Oliver Burkeman, the author of Four Thousand Weeks – Time Management For Mortals, suggested this to me in a 2022 column: “Ask yourself, does this choice enlarge me? You usually know on some unspoken level if it does. That’s a good way to distinguish between options.”
With that in mind, I don’t feel great about my 2018 article on “New Zealand’s best hole”. That didn’t enlarge anyone.
There will be people reading this column right now who have loved my writing in the Herald and are sad to see it end. Others will have hated it and are glad to see me go. Many won’t have any opinion at all. But for those in the first camp, I have good news. I have a book coming out on May 28 called A Life Less Punishing – 13 Ways To Love The Life You Got (Allen and Unwin Book Publishers). It’s a deep dive into the history, philosophy and science of not wasting our time lost in anger, loneliness, humiliation, stress, fear, boredom and all the other ways we find to not enjoy perfectly good lives. It’s available for pre-order right now (google it if you’re interested).
A Life Less Punishing took me two years to write and is equivalent in words to 100 of these columns. Which would be a complete nightmare for those in the hate camp, but as I say, great news for those who want more.
Anyway, thanks to the Herald for having me, thanks to the lovely people who make an effort to say nice things to me about my column nearly every day and thanks to the universe for every single second we get.
Bless!
After Treat Williams’ untimely departure, Catherine Zeta-Jones and John Travolta lead heartfelt tributes to him
Actor Address Williams tragically passed away after a horrific motorcycle accident, and numerous celebs sent their condolences to his family via social media.
The 71-year-old calendar man passed away as a consequence of the party, according to a statement released by his agent Barry McPherson on Monday, June 13.
John Travolta, who reminisced their Broadway adventures in the musicals Grease and More Than Here, was among the first to pay their respects to the late actor.
He recalls, “Treat Williams and I started together in NYC by appearing in two Broadway productions, More than Below and Grease.”
“I’m really sorry, treat. You and your family are on my mind. You’ll be missed by us. Greetings, John.
The Phantom, a 1996 movie starring Williams and Catherine Zeta-Jones, was tweeted with the simple message “R.I.P. Dearest Handle Williams.” Zeta-Jones shared a still from the movie.
Kim Cattrall, an actress and mother of two who costarred with the late actor in the 1999 television movie 36 Hours to Die, tweeted, “I’m in shock!”
“Farewell, Pricey Ensure. My sympathies go out to Pam, Gille, Ellie, and the family. a fantastic actor and friend.
“Sad information, relax in peace, brother,” Sharon Stone tweeted beside a screenshot of a news article claiming his death.
Mark Hamill shared a picture of them from the established with the caption, “Just got the terrible news that the globe has missing @Rtreatwilliams.” Mark Hamill was an uncredited storm base warrior with him in The Empire Strikes Back (1980). Such a wonderful individual, such a skilled actor, and such a cherished close friend. It breaks my heart. #RIP_Pal.”
“The numerous instances we worked collectively was generally remarkable and I was usually enthusiastic for the next time,” stated Emily VanCamp, the actress who portrayed Williams’ co-star in the film Everwood, with a picture of the actor in his youth. I’m offering my best wishes to your family, Deal with. Go get it, my dear friend.
“Treat and I spent months filming As soon as On a Time in America in Rome,” said James Woods, his co-star in the epic criminal offense drama from 1984.
“A long shoot can make traveling very lonely, but his constant sense of humor and amazing sense of humor have been invaluable. I’m saddened by his passing because he was someone I truly appreciated. #TreatWilliams, Godspeed.
Billy Baldwin penned a lengthy tribute to the celebrity in which he extolled his qualities as a clever, skillful, charming, witty, successful, attractive, and kind person. “Heart of gold.”
“A terrible loss,” he continued. He fought tirelessly to improve the climate and advance social fairness. We won’t get to see you. Manage your leisure time peacefully.
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