Every day, moms have a lot on their plates.
Managing multiple responsibilities throughout the day, like cleaning their children’s sticky hands and faces, folding laundry, ensuring they eat breakfast and lunch, and getting them ready for school, leaves parents with a lot on their plates and little time for relaxation.
No matter how hard they try, there will always be some sort of mishap—such as a toy you trip over, a glass of milk that gets knocked over, or a stain somewhere—waiting around the corner.
The luxury of taking a quick shower before going to bed or spending some alone time is something that many mothers cannot afford.
A mother who has seen it all, Heather Duckworth, recently wrote a piece in which she touched on some of the things we take for granted as parents.
A crucial component of that process is the mess that children make as they transform before our own eyes into the people we’ve always thought they’ll become.
It’s crucial to keep in mind that our kids will use the messes we cleaned up when they were adults as the greatest evidence to the upbringing we provided for them, so it’s worthwhile to make an effort to find happiness even in the middle of turmoil.
Unfortunately, not every woman gets to witness the chaos and disarray that kids bring about.
Not all parents are able to experience the happiness that children bring into their life, either.
Many new and expecting mothers connected with Heather’s widely shared post , “The Blue Stain.”
As Heather washed the grout her daughter had created with the slime, her heart began to race as she recalled the catastrophe she had to clean up all those years prior.
This mother would think, “My hands were full, but so was my heart,” after a demanding day of chasing after her two-year-old triplets and her four-year-old elder brother, picking up toys, and making sure no one got hurt in the mountains of laundry she was unable to finish that day.
Heather and her two sons danced to the radio as they cleaned up the playroom before calling it a night.
It was the last time they would laugh so hard for a while, no one could have anticipated.
She was about to go to sleep herself when she heard one of the boys say, “Uh, Oh,” and she noticed the enormous blue stain that would follow her about for the rest of her life.
One of the triplets’ pens exploded in his hand, splattering ink all over the place. Blue pajamas, hands, and face gave the appearance that the little child was a smurf.
Heather became enraged and felt like a lousy mother as she watched.
Although she hadn’t been upset with her son, she did blame herself since she’d placed the pen in a place where kids could readily get to it. She gave in to her emotions.
“When I noticed blue splatters all over the floor and a large pool of ink seeping into our brand-new carpet, I panicked. My husband had been doing the dishes, so I hurriedly shouted for him to come help me. My spouse began cleaning those vivid blue stains off of our carpet as soon as I got my son and took him to the toilet to clean him up. I was immediately upset.
Heather would often get angry and frustrated when she spotted the stain on the brand-new carpet. Up until the day it was eventually removed, the stain represented all the amazing experiences she shared with her sons.
A month after the little child spilled blue paint on the carpet, he was given a cancer diagnosis. Two years later, he passed away, leaving the stain as a reminder of their time together.
It remained in place, but now it served as a continual reminder of my kid. It served as a continual reminder of my annoyance at something so little and insignificant in the grand scheme of things.
The blue stain served as a continual reminder that although life is messy, it is still worthwhile. a persistent prompt to stop worrying about the little things. a continual reminder that people matter more than “things.” a continuous reminder that mishaps do occur. a continual reminder to hold fast to what is important and let go of the trivial things.
She attempted to hide the bright blue stain with the furniture, but each time she tidied the space, it was there, glaring back at her, a constant reminder of her loss and the grief she was still experiencing.
The purpose of Heather’s narrative is to serve as a reminder of how frequently we forget to see the small things in life that bring us purpose and take life for granted. She feels compelled to tell all the mothers out there that the toys scattered around and the filthy clothes are what actually provide their homes a feeling of security and comfort for their family.
As Heather puts it, those messes caused by the people we care about the most are what give our lives meaning because the day will come when we will truly miss those times.”If it meant I could spend one more day with my son, I would gladly have a million blue ink stains on my carpet.”
She gives mothers this advice: try not to become so engrossed in the world that you lose out on spending valuable time with your children. Prioritize what really important in life since it’s too short to waste time cleaning stains!
How Indian Women Manage To Preserve Their Beauty Long After Their Youth
The lifestyle of Indian women is established at a young age. They have their own way of keeping their beauty natural and healthy, having learned it as kids. With their organic foods and positive beliefs, they are full of knowledge about natural beauty and what helps to bring out the best in the body to look youthful at any age.
Here at Bright Side, we learned how Indian women preserve their beauty long after their youth, and we’re rushing to share their secrets with all of you.
Their local food plays a big part in staying young.
Spices, which are prevalent in Indian cuisine, have several beneficial effects on our health, including anti-aging properties. Most specifically, chili peppers may decrease changes that happen in skin cells over time, while ginger may prevent age spots.
Certain natural ingredients help boost their skincare.
An important part of their skincare is turmeric, an anti-inflammatory that’s said to be beneficial for skin health and to help grant users a natural glow. It can also possibly help with psoriasis and acne scarring.
They believe beauty starts from the inside.
Stress can take a huge toll on the person’s aging process. Not only does it compromise our bodies from within, but also leaves marks on our faces in the form of wrinkles. One way of dealing with anxiety is meditation. India is one of the oldest countries that practice meditation, which may help women fight stress and, as a result, preserve their youth.
They use a lot of organic hair products.
Hair-oiling, or massaging oil into hair, is a traditional practice for women in India that typically starts when girls are very young. Different oils can be used, like coconut, sesame, or castor oil. The latter is especially helpful as it contains omega-6 fatty acids. Amla, an Indian gooseberry, is also used in the belief it treats hair loss.
Have you ever tried any of the above? Do you have any other beauty tricks of your own? Share them with us in the comments.
Please note: This article was updated in June 2021 to correct source material and factual inaccuracies.
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